Collection: Meditation - #12 Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche 'How to Deal with Attachment?'
[Transcript]
AUDIENCE MEMBER 00:00
How do you practice detachment?
YONGEY MINGYUR RINPOCHE 00:02
Detachment.
So this practice you're allowed to have attachment and when you feel attachment, watch the sensation in the body.
AUDIENCE MEMBER 00:13
I mean to people and materialistic things and just everything else in general, not meditation.
YONGEY MINGYUR RINPOCHE 00:21
Attachment about something or detachment?
AUDIENCE MEMBER 00:23
Yes.
YONGEY MINGYUR RINPOCHE 00:25
How to work with attachment, right?
So when you attached of the people or money or whatever idea, the sensation comes in the body.
I need that, I need that chips, beans – (Laughter) – whatever you know. Chips, beans...
So there is sensation, so we have to watch the sensation in the body. So just use the sensation as object of the awareness.
Remind, remind.
You don't have to say no attachment, no attachment. If you said no attach, no attach, it doesn't work much. So now attachment becomes stronger, but if you really lost with it, your mind...
Then you will see the – like this, you know. Try this, everybody try this [thumbs-up]. Oh no, little bit like this [turn your thumb sideways]. Close your – okay, close one eye. Okay, now look at this thumb. So, this is object of your attachment okay?
So now look at the thumb. Look at thumb. Bring closer to your eyes. Closer, closer, closer, closer, closer. Now, whole world become thumb – (Laughter) – you can see only thumb. So that's the attachment. Actually it's small, right?
That's the – not only with the things, even idea, anything. So once we're going there and then we make it bigger, bigger, bigger... And then we see the opposite; Oh if I don't have this big problem... I have this waterfall... I wish I could have more... what should I do... you know.
So, we have to know this is create by our mind, we make mountain out of mole...
AUDIENCE MEMBER 02:30
Molehills.
YONGEY MINGYUR RINPOCHE 02:31
Molehills.
So, the perception, how create this attachment?
So first, there's a view.
Second for the meditation, just watch the sensation. You don't have to say yes or no, just watch. Watch. Just watching, it will helps.
Number three, bring that into habit.
The view and awareness into everyday habit. So then you don't have to do anything with that attachment. It will liberate by itself.
(Source: https://youtu.be/ukTaodQfYRQ)
[YAPSS Takeaway]
Attachment itself is not a problem, the problem is how you feel about it and how you act towards it.